The 120km/hr Drive

He wasn’t ecstatic to say the least, but he just liked the idea of something out of the ordinary; his life was becoming routine, and anything that meant a slight change was a welcome idea any day.


Ada worked with Zenith Bank and as such didn’t have much of a social life and that sort of made us like two peas in a pod; it turned out to be the one thing that we had in common. She was also a thorough beauty.


The car racing was something to remember. We had driven out of her office with me in the lead, cos I was the one who knew the fastest route to our rendezvous point. Abuja is a haven for fast cars, but even at that, it was same for us with our Japanese machine: Toyota.

You could do 120km/hr on the roads and no one would shoot you even a fleeting glance, let alone think you are doing something out of the ordinary.


A lengthy story cut short, she matched up pretty well and occasionally flashed me inviting smiles as we raced on.

Our first point of call was Chicken Capitol, considering they had the best Shawarma in Abuja and we had talked about it severally on bbm; this was my treat, my spot…I was totally loving the idea of showing her new places in town.

We ordered and seeing as there is usually a long wait that accompanied the wonderful shawarma, I suggested we went somewhere else to kill time. This time around we went in just one car; I wanted this phase to be a bit up close and personal, with me steering; it’s something I had long since envisaged.

Talking about any and everything could be very therapeutic, cos we got to talk about a lot, ranging from challenges in the working environment largely dominated by men, to the thing with Syria and what exactly she thought was the best course of action. Considering I’m sapiosexual, with the more I found out about all she knew and how smart she was, affection started to spark up where I thought it impossible.


Long before we took a bite of the shawarma we ordered, the evening had long since taken an unexpected turn. I was still taken aback on how best to proceed, considering all the blood i was seeing


wife&hussyHey folks,

I’m here to share some excerpts from a Sunday service at the family Worship Centre in Wuye, Abuja. It was both edifying and educative; so I thought to enlighten us a bit, though I’m sure I wouldn’t do much justice to it.


No1: He wants respect and submission.

At the forefronts of what a man wants in a wife, is SUBMISSION and the bible makes that clear in the bible.

Ephesians 5:22-24  

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit fin everything to their husbands.

We understand that you love us, if you respect us. We want your respect in private and in public. For a man, respect is somewhat connected to his sexual appetite.

No2: He doesn’t want to be constantly reminded that you are better than him.

If for any reason you are earning more than your man, or are better placed than he is, please try and not rub it in his face lest it is likened to emasculating him.

No3: He wants sex as much as possible

Healthy and adequate sex builds intimacy in a marriage; it breeds happier couples. I also think it is worthy of note, to point out that when sex goes or gradually becomes extinct in a marriage, the joy in it also does.

Proverbs 5: 18-19

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

Wives, sex shouldn’t be for manipulation or for reward purposes; I’m sure your husbands would lose their affinity for sex with you if they see it only as a tool for manipulation. There are other ways to get your husband to do what you want; you have his heart, perfect navigating around it to your advantage.

No4: He wants to know he is more important than your parents or siblings

Your husband wants to know at all times that he is number one in your life, heart and thoughts.

Also, you have to keep this in mind at all times; if you sell your husband short before your family and siblings, they would never value him.

No5: he wants you to constantly improve how you look.

–         Men have a visual library in their minds: give him something to remember always, especially when he is on long trips away from home.

–         Men are visually stimulated; if we like what we see, you would like what you get.

–         The way a woman looks, is the reflection of your husband; don’t fall his hand.

No6: He wants to have productive and objective discussions with you

Men would like to have conversations with their wives that are devoid of so much emotion. We would like to discuss work, problems we are experiencing as regards business and life as it concerns us. Emotions becloud that objective sense of reasoning.

No7: He wants you to have kindness on your tongue.

Proverbs 21: 19

It is better to live in a desert land, than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

  • Men secretly deal with self-doubt; don’t compound issues he is facing, with your harsh mouth.
  • Praise him, lift him up – compliment him always. Reaffirm continually that he is just right for you.

He, who has grace on his lips, will have the king as a friend. (Esther 8:5)

No8: HE wants a prudent wife; one that would manage money well.

It’s no news that a prudent wife is a gift from the Lord.

Synonyms of Prudent: discreet, sensible, wise, careful, cautious and farsighted.

All that aside, let’s takes the highlights:

A clean house can be taken care of; your husband wants you primarily for himself…for love, care, sex, upliftment and more sex.

the glaring truth; my nicotine addiction

If you hide yourself in your problems, they would consume you

I am a smoker and I’m addicted to nicotine.


I never believed or agreed that I was addicted till I had gone too far out from where redemption was close; I don’t know how else to go about it.

I need help and I’m no longer afraid to ask for it.

I know I have a couple of loved ones out there,

I beg you to please join me in prayers


I am a very practical person,

So it beats me that I can’t and haven’t seen the logic behind cigarettes and their utter uselessness.

*The devil is a liar, and he has lost the war for my soul*

The Lord would redeem me; He is the only one who would never forsake me.


I have forsaken myself for so long,

Please someone tell me there is still hope for me


I think the only way to deal with an addiction, is to replace it with a new one.

I want to rededicate my life and my mind to God; feed off his word and try to be more like him.



Habits are harder to deal with, because we do not entertain them in the open.

You can’t keep the glaring truth a secret.


I’d like your sincere feedback (comments); no judgments

Any and everything that could help me on this arduous journey to redemption will be appreciated.

Couldn’t get any Brighter

Its Tuesday Morning

A day couldn’t get any BRIGHTER

All was going according to plan, to the extent I even thought to go out of plan and right down to execution…it all seemed judiciously strategic


I had cleared my table prior, save for the heap of newspapers I was to skim through…asides that I had a lot of time to do some personal stuff


I had taken hunger out of the equation, so I could think clearly or however I wanted to.

The BIG BOSS was and still is out of town,

So it’s been a jolly good holiday while not exactly holidaying.


Excerpts from the news

Thanks to medical profession and its many capable branches, Naomi the Nigerian who was bathed with acid by an unknown assailant in East London just had her eyebrows reconstructed, and is slowly going back to looking normal again.


Airlines hike fares over Dana Airlines’ suspension; trust Nigerians to profit from any opportunity that dares present itself.


The cable car project in Lagos state is on the verge of completion; it is one of the measures Gov. Fashola is taking to supplement the transportation system in Lagos. I need not mention that he has completed the Light Rail project in the state and is steadily leaving the rest of Nigeria behind.


Dangote, the business mogul plans $34.7bn fresh investment into Nigerian economy by 2017; aren’t we just blessed? One of our own is making serious plans on how to transform Nigeria for the better…no forgetting the oil refinery he has secured a loan for.