I’m here to share some excerpts from a Sunday service at the family Worship Centre in Wuye, Abuja. It was both edifying and educative; so I thought to enlighten us a bit, though I’m sure I wouldn’t do much justice to it.
TOPIC: WHAT A MAN WANTS IN HIS WIFE
No1: He wants respect and submission.
At the forefronts of what a man wants in a wife, is SUBMISSION and the bible makes that clear in the bible.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit fin everything to their husbands.
We understand that you love us, if you respect us. We want your respect in private and in public. For a man, respect is somewhat connected to his sexual appetite.
No2: He doesn’t want to be constantly reminded that you are better than him.
If for any reason you are earning more than your man, or are better placed than he is, please try and not rub it in his face lest it is likened to emasculating him.
No3: He wants sex as much as possible
Healthy and adequate sex builds intimacy in a marriage; it breeds happier couples. I also think it is worthy of note, to point out that when sex goes or gradually becomes extinct in a marriage, the joy in it also does.
Proverbs 5: 18-19
Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
Wives, sex shouldn’t be for manipulation or for reward purposes; I’m sure your husbands would lose their affinity for sex with you if they see it only as a tool for manipulation. There are other ways to get your husband to do what you want; you have his heart, perfect navigating around it to your advantage.
No4: He wants to know he is more important than your parents or siblings
Your husband wants to know at all times that he is number one in your life, heart and thoughts.
Also, you have to keep this in mind at all times; if you sell your husband short before your family and siblings, they would never value him.
No5: he wants you to constantly improve how you look.
– Men have a visual library in their minds: give him something to remember always, especially when he is on long trips away from home.
– Men are visually stimulated; if we like what we see, you would like what you get.
– The way a woman looks, is the reflection of your husband; don’t fall his hand.
No6: He wants to have productive and objective discussions with you
Men would like to have conversations with their wives that are devoid of so much emotion. We would like to discuss work, problems we are experiencing as regards business and life as it concerns us. Emotions becloud that objective sense of reasoning.
No7: He wants you to have kindness on your tongue.
Proverbs 21: 19
It is better to live in a desert land, than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.
- Men secretly deal with self-doubt; don’t compound issues he is facing, with your harsh mouth.
- Praise him, lift him up – compliment him always. Reaffirm continually that he is just right for you.
He, who has grace on his lips, will have the king as a friend. (Esther 8:5)
No8: HE wants a prudent wife; one that would manage money well.
It’s no news that a prudent wife is a gift from the Lord.
Synonyms of Prudent: discreet, sensible, wise, careful, cautious and farsighted.
All that aside, let’s takes the highlights:
A clean house can be taken care of; your husband wants you primarily for himself…for love, care, sex, upliftment and more sex.